There are scammers, cheap-o's and salt daddies EVERYWHERE! Therefore, you must be smart about cuddling and other factors that come with it. If you don't make yourself the FIRST priority, you will always be taken advantage of (I mentioned SD's because you will meet some through this industry).
Here are some tips that a "possible" is playing a game:
1. Pseudo Trolls
I call them "pseudo" because they will act encouraging and excited for you, but mad at the same time. They aren't the average troll that wants attention and is cruel, but trolls of any kind are to distract you from your main target, which is to make $$$.
9 times out of 10, these are males that want to SLEEP with you (view you as a conquest and want something for NOTHING), but can't afford or don't want to pay for cuddling. So, they will troll by always checking in on you, might make a comment about being a cuddle therapist to compete, try to always state that this industry can be dangerous, when these days EVERYWHERE can de dangerous. People tied closely with the industry or similar care about your well being, but not the guy that crushed on you back in high school that never got to sleep with you. He still wants ass. LMAO!
Folks die everyday at work, movie theaters, malls, you name it...OK!!! So, no one is safe. You have to say a prayer and keep it moving. Those lames aren't really that concerned. If you don't feel safe, take necessary precautions.
The main indicator is they (a possible, especially if they closely know you) will talk about how expensive your session is and then state they might get too "excited" or turned on to be with you and might do something that can be disrespectful. I almost used example screenshots of these convo's, but I wanted to be nice today, so ya'll lames, dusties, and cheapo's are lucky.
First off, I stay concealed, so you won't be doing anything to me. I am an Army woman first and ALL TRESPASSERS (to my body) WILL BE SHOT if you try something crazy with me and I already said, "No." It is ok for a cuddlee to touch you with permission, but if they want to suck titties or do other things, ummmm........nah bro!
If you can't handle the intensity of cuddling, it isn't for you and stop inquiring about it to me. You aren't the right fit or client. We are mature adults and know right from wrong. If you need to relieve yourself, do so after I leave.
2. Millions of Questions
"Possibles" will ask millions of questions and produce NOTHING! They just want to keep you again distracted and see if they can get a discount or freebie. Go to POF or E Harmony for free cuddles.
I had a gentleman today contact me and wanted pictures and a bunch of stuff. He agreed to my deposit and price, but went ghost (young guy). Don't have time and no, you don't need pictures. I feel like I didn't lose at all. We will see if he sends a deposit before the weekend (his scheduled session). Do not put anything in your calendar or confirm unless a deposit hits PayPal, Cashapp, or your designated site.
To counteract this, explain the basics of your session and require a deposit (only if they contact you privately without a site - word of mouth or meeting you in public). If they are interested on the site, tell them to book within the site. Deposits are important because time is money. I have a child and she has to be watched during a session. If I send her to a sitter and then a client cancels, how am I going to pay the sitter? You as a "possible" just wasted my time. Then I have the sitter looking at me crazy because she wants her money. It's not fair at all, so you have to set boundaries.
I had a recent gentleman try to gaslight and "okey doke" me. He visited my page and I reached out. He switched things around like I was looking for him and wanted to charge me for a session and he wasn't even PRO. I corrected him regarding that and the site caught his message (he was requesting payment/prices without being PRO). He was blocked a few hours later. Shoot, he looked for me and stated his request, which was $400, not me. Where do they do that at?
3. Know Your Target
Cuddling can not only be a service, but considered as a kink or taboo. I might step on toes with this point (I'll do another post regarding racism in this industry, which I haven't experienced yet), but most African-American, Latino, and/or young guys (all races) will not pay for cuddling or try to scam to get something for nothing. For the AA's and L's, even if they are older, they don't want to pay and will use the "anti-harassment" line in point #1 ("I can't afford it and might get turned on" AKA be disrespectful). Most of my clients are Caucasian and older. You all have been so GOOD to me. So, shout out to ya'll and thank you for your support!!!
Do not consider cuddling as a dating situation. When you start thinking that way, you will get the wrong target every time. Who cares if the client is Caucasian and 60? I sure don't, but on average, the 25 year old African American male isn't going to pay for a cuddle at all. He wants a f*** for free...OK!
And don't let these young guys fool you. Many Army men barely 21 years old will spend their whole paychecks at the strip club and was asking for rides in formation. If they want to cuddle, they better go mow some lawns. Don't let any guy get in your cuddle site inbox with "Hello's" and a million questions. It's the "gas up." You have things to do.
I'm not trying to align my business with the "Good Times" mentality of the bare minimum and struggle. You know if you have my hourly rate in your wallet or bank account. Now I know why my parents never let me watch this show growing up. Poverty, disappointments, and dreams that never come true. Talk about ghetto superstars....Ain't got time!
4. KNOW YOUR WORTH!
There is SOMEONE out there that thinks your services for cuddling are worth it. If a gentleman starts making excuses or asking questions without any results, tell them you are busy and have a wonderful day! If they ask if you are busy, ignore....again, distractions. You don't have time for that at all. If they think the price is too high, they don't deserve your company or your presence.
Happy & Safe cuddling!
Love,
Porsha
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Visiting Las Vegas and want to cuddle? Please book or inquire about pricing by e-mailing me at:
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